Counselling with Shema
Different ways of finding understanding.
Books, poetry, videos, listening and useful support routes. Some draw on IFS; others offer different perspectives. You are welcome to explore whatever draws your attention and leave anything that does not fit. There is nothing here you need to complete.
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These resources can sit alongside therapy. They do not replace individual support or healthcare. If something feels significant, confusing or uncomfortable, we can make room for it together in a session.
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Different perspectives on our inner lives, relationships, trauma and grief. Read what draws you, at your own pace.
IFS & self-understanding
An introduction to getting to know your different inner responses with curiosity and compassion. The book includes exercises; you can read it without doing them.
About this book: No Bad Parts (opens in a new tab)
Poetry & recognition
Poetry inspired by Emma’s own experience of IFS. A different way of meeting the feelings and inner experiences that can be difficult to put into everyday words.
About this book: Poems for My Parts: An IFS Therapy Journey (opens in a new tab)
Relationships & connection
An IFS perspective on how our inner responses can shape connection with someone we love. Understanding ourselves does not make us responsible for another person’s behaviour.
About this book: You Are the One You’ve Been Waiting For (opens in a new tab)
Parenting & connection
An attachment perspective on the relationship between parents and children, and the place of connection in family life.
About this book: Hold On to Your Kids (opens in a new tab)
Trauma, health & society
Maté’s perspective on trauma, stress and the wider world we live in. An invitation to reflect, rather than an explanation for every illness or every person’s experience.
About this book: The Myth of Normal (opens in a new tab)
Grief, belonging & connection
A thoughtful exploration of grief, including losses we may find difficult to name, and the place of ritual, community and connection in carrying sorrow.
About this book: The Wild Edge of Sorrow (opens in a new tab)
Trauma & understanding
Conversations about trauma and the experiences that shape us, offering a compassionate way to understand our responses and the possibility of healing.
About this book: What Happened to You? (opens in a new tab)
Trauma, body & connection
An exploration of trauma, its effects on our experience of body and mind, and different approaches to recovery. Includes detailed accounts of traumatic experiences; you can read at your own pace and leave what feels too much.
About this book: The Body Keeps the Score (opens in a new tab)
Stress, health & emotional needs
Maté explores his perspective on the relationships between stress, emotional experience and physical health. An invitation to reflect on your needs and boundaries, without blaming yourself for illness or replacing medical care.
About this book: When the Body Says No (opens in a new tab)
Play therapy & understanding
An account of a young child’s play therapy, offering a window into how a child can communicate through play and be met with patient attention. This is a book for adults about a child’s experience, rather than a children’s storybook.
About this book: Dibs in Search of Self (opens in a new tab)
Trauma, love & connection
A therapist’s personal account of childhood trauma, identity and the longing for love and acceptance. It includes painful experiences of abuse as well as reflections on connection and healing.
About this book: To Be Loved: A Story of Truth, Trauma, and Transformation (opens in a new tab)
Illness, mortality & meaning
Derek Scott’s personal reflections on living with terminal cancer, weaving together IFS, psychedelic experiences and spirituality as he explores dying, connection and meaning. Includes reflections on illness, death and grief.
About this book: Dead (Spoiler Alert): A Psychotherapist’s Journey with Cancer (opens in a new tab)Linked resources open only when you choose. No videos play automatically.
Understanding IFS
The five-minute introduction on the IFS Institute’s video page is a starting point for understanding parts and the model.
Find the short introduction: A short introduction to IFS (opens in a new tab)Pain, coping & addiction
A talk exploring Maté’s view of addiction through pain and coping. It discusses difficult experiences and offers one perspective to consider.
Watch video: The Power of Addiction and The Addiction of Power (opens in a new tab)Poetry & conversation
Emma talks about her writing and reads from her poems. An audio route into the book and the experiences behind it.
Listen to the episode: Poems For My Parts with Emma Coyne (opens in a new tab)Parenting, love & connection
A short reflection on why meeting emotional needs with love and closeness is not the same as spoiling a child. Maté describes the importance of connection in helping us feel settled and supported.
Watch video: You Can’t Love Your Kids Too Much (opens in a new tab)Shame, pain & addiction
Maté explores how addiction can become a way of escaping pain and shame, and why adding pressure or “tough love” can deepen that struggle. An invitation to respond with understanding rather than blame.
Watch video: How shame can drive addiction (opens in a new tab)Younger parts, fear & self-expression
A musician and his younger self face the fear of singing. This animated story offers a way to reflect on the inner voices, younger parts and self-doubt that can make it difficult to express ourselves.
Watch video: I Am Tom Moody (opens in a new tab)Stress, body & emotional experience
A talk in which Maté explores his perspective on stress, emotional experience and physical health. Space to reflect on connection and unmet needs, alongside the healthcare appropriate to your circumstances.
Watch video: When the Body Says No: Mind/Body Unity and the Stress-Disease Connection (opens in a new tab)Parenting & our own parts
A series about noticing what happens within us when we react as parents, and finding more choice through that awareness.
Watch playlist: IFS and Parenting (opens in a new tab)Story & reflection
A video reading to explore in your own time. You might notice what the story brings up for you, without needing to arrive at a particular interpretation.
Watch video: The Good Fairy (opens in a new tab)Parenting & caring boundaries
A perspective on choices and caring boundaries. Consider ideas alongside your child’s development, neurotype, communication, sensory needs and capacity when overwhelmed.
Watch video: Choices, Cookies & Kids (opens in a new tab)Connection & authenticity
An exploration of how we may learn to hide feelings or needs to protect connection, and the vulnerability those adaptations can carry.
Watch video: Authenticity and attachment (opens in a new tab)Room for different minds, different ways of communicating, and your own experience. Free writing and information, with no tasks to complete.
Neurodiversity, identity & compassion
A personal reflection on diagnosis, belonging and the different feelings that labels can bring. Room for your experience to be more than a label.
Read more: I’m Not Just a Diagnostic Label (opens in a new tab)Communication & being understood
Emma reflects on autistic communication and the times when words are difficult. An invitation to recognise different ways of expressing ourselves, without pressure to speak in a particular way.
Read more: When Silence Speaks (opens in a new tab)Autistic experience & energy
Information about fatigue and burnout in autistic adults, including the demands of everyday life and the importance of understanding your needs.
Read more: Understanding autistic fatigue (opens in a new tab)ADHD information
A starting point for information about ADHD. You can explore questions about your experience without needing a diagnosis before approaching therapy.
Read more: Understanding ADHD (opens in a new tab)Affirming information, connection and support. Your identity does not need fixing.
LGBTQIA+ connection & listening
Free, confidential listening by volunteers from the LGBTQIA+ community, by phone, chat or email. For questions about identity, relationships, how you are feeling, or finding connection.
Visit website: A space to talk, as you are (opens in a new tab)LGBTQIA+ mental health
Information about finding mental health support, being open about your identity if you choose, and what to do if you experience discrimination or poor treatment.
Visit website: Finding support that understands you (opens in a new tab)LGBT+ safety & support
Specialist support for LGBT+ adults aged 18 and over who have experienced abuse or violence, including domestic abuse, sexual violence and conversion practices.
Visit website: Support after abuse or violence (opens in a new tab)Further reading and research for those who want to explore more deeply.
Trauma research & understanding
A collection of research references on trauma, relationships, body and mind, including work by Bessel van der Kolk. A route for those who want to explore the research more deeply; some material is technical.
Read more: Trauma Research Foundation resources (opens in a new tab)Understanding and support, without a timetable for how you should feel.
Grief & loss
Information about different experiences of grief, with room for your own response and pace.
Read more: Understanding grief (opens in a new tab)Free online information for people living with persistent pain. These resources can sit alongside medical care. Pain is real, and needing support is not a personal failure.
Living with persistent pain
Free online leaflets and the Airing Pain podcast, bringing together people living with pain and health professionals. Explore what is useful to you; there is no programme you need to complete.
Visit website: Pain information and lived experience (opens in a new tab)IFS & persistent pain
An article exploring an IFS perspective on persistent pain, including the parts carrying hurt and the parts trying to protect us. Consider it alongside medical assessment and care, rather than as an explanation for every kind of pain.
Visit website: IFS and Chronic Pain: Listening to Inner Parts that Hold the Hurt (opens in a new tab)Writing and personal experiences from my own inner work, with room to follow what resonates for you.
Connection, rest & protective parts
Explore reflections on connection, rest, change, parenting and addictive processes, alongside personal experiences and the understanding I bring to therapy.
Explore the reflections: A space to pause and reflect (opens in a new tab)Finding further support
These organisations offer information or direct support. Check each service’s location, eligibility and current availability. The links are here for information and support relevant to what you may be experiencing. They do not describe services provided by my practice.
Mental health information, rights and ways to find support. England and Wales.
Information and support for people affected by bereavement. Check the service available in your area.
Information for people living with persistent pain and those close to them.
Drug and alcohol information and support in England and Scotland.
Specialist information and support following rape or sexual abuse.
Sexual violence information and support in Scotland.
Support for adults affected by childhood abuse. UK.
Information and support for women experiencing domestic abuse.
Support for men experiencing domestic abuse. UK.
Mental health information for young people, parents and carers. UK.
Listening and support for young people under 19. UK.
Advice if you are worried about a child, and support for parents and carers. UK.
Reporting and advice about online sexual abuse involving children and young people. UK.
Urgent-support details and new resource sources checked on 10 October 2026. External services may change.
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